How to stay in love - James Sexton - Scott Goggins

 


I'd like to state that I'm not in love or in a relationship. In terms of relationship books this is probably my favorite or at the top if my memory serves me right. What this book has that other relationships don't is explicit candor. A lot of books keep a level of professionalism when they are writing their books where as he is blunt and honest. With how real, authentic and raw marriage is it makes complete sense. Everyone experiences the same things in a relationship but don't want to be open about it. In the book he says he wonders how often couples have relations (I'm not as explicit, this is a PG blog LOL). 

James is a divorce lawyer that has been practicing for 30 years. We get to hear his experience with learning about these couples in extreme depth as to why their marriage fell apart. This perspective is vastly different from any other relationship book. Also throughout the book he explains his job, why it can be difficult at at times and just really interesting cases he's worked on.

He goes over pretty common topics that are regularly discussed elsewhere such as communication and independence but with his background and examples it feels more urgent or maybe definite is the right word. It seems like if anyone would know that this is important then he is the guy, so I should probably be sure to do this. The big take away for me was selflessness which I guess is common but it hit home more after reading this. Without going down a big debate I think it takes two people with this mindset and when one stops the other follows and then you hire Mr.Sexton.

It is vulgar so expect R rated but I really enjoyed this book.

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  1. BbowlingSeptember 26, 2026 at 6:07 PM

    This blog is not pg jajaja no one is selfless everyone is selfish no wonder sexton is rich

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