Man’s Guide to Women - Gottman and Gottman - 2016

 

I can’t say it is a good sign that I am reading this book. Jajajaj It is an embarrassment mostly but anyways knowledge is knowledge right? Jaja

I can’t say this book was super helpful or matched my experience really. In some cases I disagree with the authors. 

I think the main surprise of this book is the overall portrayal of women. I thought since it is 2026 women want to pay for the first date and aren’t emotional and don’t want to hold your hand and and don’t care if you hold the door for them and want to take control in sex and other relationship matters. This is what I get from watching tv and hearing about women wanting more equality. But this book basically says the opposite based on their studies: essentially that men have the power in the relationship and that women are fragile and need to be held and listened to. This is surprising to me! This book is 10 years old and my assumption is that dating changes pretty rapidly. Maybe that is the problem. Or idk maybe I am just straight wrong which is very possible. 

But there are some really good tips about listening to your woman and that for a woman sex is not just sex, like she may remember you told her she was beautiful two days ago and therefore the sex will be better this time. 

This book is too short but it is really funny. They reference some really hilarious academic studies which are real but are pretty crazy. Like for example, someone correlated tips at the strip club to the strippers’ menstrual cycle. Like how did they write the grant proposal for that one jajajajaj? Like did the data scientist go and hang out at Magic City on Friday nights jajajajajaj?????? And apparently if you randomly ask 100 women to sleep with you 5 or 6 will say yes. Maybe this is what I should go for jajajajaj (although to be fair in one study it was 0). 

Oh and there is some sex education section stuff with diagrams jajaja. Tbh I dont know anything about how sex works or female anatomy or cycles or whatever. So I guess this part was good maybe? 

So in sum, I would say trust your instincts and that love is not quantifiable but who knows?? 

One more thing, there is a section that says that if a woman likes you she will make it known by nonverbal (or i guess verbal is also possible) signaling. My experience is that this never happens or when it did, the woman was like a 1-3 so it was more depressing than anything. Perhaps my face is not symmetrical enough because apparently that is what women want in a man: a symmetrical face and someone who is trustworthy. My own advice would be f the signals, if the girl is at the club with her friends with no ring you might as well try if you think she’s good/hot/attractive whatever. 

Jajajajaj lol this is funny ok peace idk what I am reading next, maybe more dating or maybe more krakauer. I really want to read under the banner of heaven by krakauer. 

***A general note: I am starting apparently to read more books I disagree with or that disagree with my experience or disagree with other books I have read. Does this mean there is no such thing as knowledge and that everything is subjective???? To a point I guess everything is lol. That is also depressing. Jajaja ok peace.