The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem - Nathaniel Branden - Scott Goggins

 


I found myself enjoying this book more after I finished than while I was reading it. It mainly just had me reflecting and thinking about self esteem and especially looking out for it more. It's like when you notice everyone all of a sudden wearing blue but that's probably everyday in a different form. I'd say this book is broken into two parts. The first part are the six pillars and the second half is applying the pillars to aspects of life. As for the first half I did enjoy the concepts, how they were broken down and applied to life. I agree with the pillars and have experience them in my own life. The only put down I have is at some points it can read very academically and I start to gloss over or my mind would wander and I'd have to re-read. Some people might like this due to the detail but I didn't care for. 

I honestly didn't know there was a 'second part of the book', I thought it was just the pillars. There were some interesting pieces but generally I was not gripped by the material. He goes into the importance of self esteem and how it plays into the different parts of society. This ranges from raising children to working in an office. I personally enjoyed the raising children part the most. I think it's just interesting to hear what the 'experts' have to say and I also contrast it to my own childhood. I'm not sure if I am who I am because that's just me or because of how my parents raised me since both are options. It's hard to say. Some parts of this second half I didn't care for and it felt like he had some strong emotions on topics that he needed to get out regardless if it was completely relevant to the subject matter.

Oh and he also reference his relationship with a much older women. I'm not sure of the details but it's a little odd. My impression was that he was in college and she was around a professors age and they started dating/maybe married which had a substantial impact on his life. It's a little odd but nobody is perfect and if you have something to offer I'm down to hear it. I also don't know how old he is, I'd guess 60. He's also a pick yourself up from the boostraps guy which I don't mean generally speaking just that by doing so can be healthy for your self esteem which I agree. No one is coming to save you brother or sister. 


Overall it was a decent book and I'm glad I read it. Unfortunately I'll have to refer back or read summaries of each pillar again to remind myself but I did take some things away from it. I don't think it's a silver bullet for self esteem but it definitely can help. The issue is you have to read the second half LOL unless you are a psycho and read stop mid way through a book.

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