I dont want to talk about it - overcoming the secret legacy of male depression - Terry Real - 1997

 


I read this one. Pretty academic. Fairly long. Way ahead of its time for 1997. Attia read this book and really liked it. 

Super relevant if you were a victim of childhood trauma. 

The case studies and autobiographical information in this book were really good and at times sad. 

The text is a bit academic. I had to read and reread a lot. 

Attia’s book was more relatable to me as I thankfully have the best family ever!

Fair warning: don’t marry anyone with unresolved childhood trauma that you don’t know about. They will externalize it and you are going to end up in couple’s therapy trying to resolve it lol. So if I ever date again lol I am going ask if they want kids and if they have unresolved childhood trauma such as abuse or neglect. And of course they can work through their trauma in therapy, but it is not easy. And I guess this is a mean perspective but at least it is a realistic one. 

Looking forward to reading Scott’s review of “Boundaries.”

Next I think I am going to read Jocko’s “Extreme Ownership” (from Scott) or Dan Martell’s “Buy Back Your Time” (from Coach Cathy). 

Have a wonderful day everyone!


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