The Love Prescription - John Gottman - Scott Goggins

 


This to me is another one of those books where it gives you all of the answers so why would you not read it? Similar to how to win friend and influence people. The best part about this book is the applicability. They don't speak of pie in the sky ideas or philosophies. It's very much you need to start doing this in your relationship and here is how you can start. You also get the benefit of seeing the relationship through the eyes of both partners instead of just yourself. I felt some of the stuff they talk about comes naturally in a relationship. You may not realize that you have been doing the things they say but knowing how impactful they are in the relationship and how it can make your partner feel is the most important part. It was a little unrelatable at times since some of their case studies are couples with kids who both work demanding careers. The difficulties they are facing are not difficulties I'd face currently but I guess it's a glimpse into what could be the future so it's still helpful. 

The flipside to this type of book in my opinion is the highlight of complexity in a relationship. I think everyone desires to be in a relationship that is 'effortless'. Regardless if that is possible or not these kinds of books emphasize the realness, commit, priority and effort it takes to be in a successful marriage. It can be overwhelming when you want to enjoy your relationship but also are trying to implement all of these practices. The effort that they are laying out could potentially scare you and it could also lead you to overanalyzing your relationship which robs your focus of just enjoying one another. In my opinion those are fleeting thoughts and shouldn't hold you back from reading it because the positives you gain heavily outweigh it.

The other benefit of this book is you can read it once then really just keep a list of the titles to refer back to and that will jog your memory. I think this is a good practical book if you are looking to learn what can foster a healthy relationship regardless if you are currently in a relationship or not. Nothing amazing but applicable to the subject.

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